Things I Want My Daughter to Know
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When my daughter was born, a multitude of thoughts went through my head. What kind of person would she be? What things would she like to do? Who was she going to be?
In her first year, I got little glimpses of her personality. Especially the cheekiness and the stubbornness.
As I watched her grow, I knew it was my job to make sure she grew into the amazing person I knew she could be.
She may be only two years old now, but there are things I want her to grow up knowing.
Children have this innocence – their minds have not yet been corrupted from the pressures and expectations of society.
I want to shield her from as much of the bad things in the world that I can. But that can’t happen forever.
There are so many things she needs to know.
Things I want my daughter to know
No matter what you do I will always love you
Don’t ever think because you’ve made a mistake or you think that I’ll be disappointed in something you’ve done, that I will stop loving you. That will never happen. Ever!
Be the person you want to be
Don’t change because you think it’s what everyone else expects, or who everyone wants you to be. Everyone is unique, be who you want to be. There is no one else like you in the world. Never lose sight of who you are. You are amazing.
Don’t do something just because everyone else is
It’s easy to think you have to do something because everyone else is. You don’t. You have a choice. If it feels wrong, don’t do it.
Don’t take crap from anyone
Stand up for yourself. Don’t let them talk you down or belittle you.
Don’t let anyone make you feel inferior
There will be times in life when people will think they are better than you and will try and tear you down any way they can. What they think doesn’t matter.
Don’t let anyone make you feel like you don’t belong
It can be hard to find your place in the world, but don’t let anyone ever make you feel like you don’t deserve to be there.
Step away from people that make you feel terrible or worthless
They’re not worth it! Real friends wouldn’t make you feel that way.
I love you
Have I said that already? Well, I love you. You are amazing!
You are worth more
Never underestimate your worth. Don’t ever think you’re not worth anything. To me, you are the world.
Never settle for anything
If you want something – go for it!
Do the things that make you happy or you enjoy
Don’t save things for special moments, every moment is special. If it brings a smile to your face or makes you feel good about yourself, it’s worth it.
Don’t compare yourself to anyone
Everyone has their own path, their own battles and their own life to live. We all have different strengths and weaknesses. Don’t let comparing yourself to others rob yourself of happiness and the definition of who you are.
Go easy on yourself
Don’t beat yourself up because you make a mistake. Learn from it, and turn it into something positive.
Don’t believe anything nasty anyone says about you
Some people are just being nasty. And it can be easier to believe the horrible things people say than the compliments you are given. Sometimes people can’t help putting others down because it makes them feel better. It’s not about you.
What you believe, is what you become
Focus on your strengths. If you believe you can, you will succeed.
Life is not easy
But most things worth doing aren’t. You get out of it what you put in.
Don’t be afraid to say, “no”
You are allowed to. You can’t do and be everything to everyone. Don’t feel guilty about it. Sometimes it is necessary.
There will always be people who try to judge you
Judge you, challenge you and try to break you down. Ignore them. Most of the time they are just trying to make themselves feel better.
No matter how old you are, I will never stop being your mum
If you need me, I’ll be there. Anytime. Even if it’s the middle of the night.
If I haven’t told you enough, you are my world and never forget how much I love you
I still think of you as my baby, and I probably always will. I know I won’t always be there to protect you like I’d like to.
If I could shield you from all the terrible things that could happen to you, I would.
Unfortunately, the world isn’t always the nice place it should be. But if I can give you the strength and wisdom to get you through life when I’m not there, then I’ve done my job.
I have no doubt that when the time comes you will be ready to take on the world.
What things would you like your daughter to know?
Kris Gnuse
October 27, 2018 @ 2:04 pm
These are great thoughts not just for ours daughters, but for all of us grownups, too. Thank you.
Candice
November 22, 2018 @ 9:02 am
Definitely, they can be used for just about anyone.
Phill Slater
October 28, 2018 @ 7:34 am
I have two sons and the advice would be the same. Lots of love in your post.
Candice
November 22, 2018 @ 9:03 am
Thank you.
Jyoti
October 28, 2018 @ 8:15 am
Great post. You have shared all the things which a mother wants to tell her daughter and make her teach. I am not a mother but I’ll definitely teach the same things to my daughter as well ♥
Candice
November 22, 2018 @ 9:04 am
Thank you. I’m glad you found it useful.
Jennifer Pompaski
October 28, 2018 @ 8:31 am
I loved reading this and they are things i would love to tell my own kids too when the time comes! By the way, she’s adorable!
Candice
November 22, 2018 @ 9:06 am
Thank you.
Karen
October 28, 2018 @ 1:10 pm
Great advice! My daughter will be 27 soon, and she has thanked me now and then for the wisdom I’ve imparted whether verbally of through my own actions (including mistakes). That’s how you know you’ve done a good job!
Candice
November 22, 2018 @ 9:09 am
That’s amazing. Definitely sounds like you’ve done a great job.
Bhavna
October 29, 2018 @ 12:06 pm
This is great advice. Things I would want my teenage daughter to know as well. Lovely to read.
Candice
November 22, 2018 @ 9:09 am
Thank you. I’m glad you enjoyed it.
Cheryl
October 29, 2018 @ 4:03 pm
Great advice for your little. This world is not getting easier and guiding children is more important than ever.
Candice
November 22, 2018 @ 9:11 am
Absolutely!
Donna | The Upward Blip
October 31, 2018 @ 11:22 pm
I have a 34-month-old little boy and a 16-month-old little girl. I definitely want them to know all of these. This post right here absolutely hits home. Thank you!
Candice
November 22, 2018 @ 9:14 am
Thank you. I’m glad you found it useful.
April
November 1, 2018 @ 8:37 am
Excellent advice on what you want your daughter to know. You’ve covered all I’d like to say to mine whenever the good Lord send her to me. Thank you for this!
Candice
November 22, 2018 @ 9:20 am
You’re welcome.
Erin
November 1, 2018 @ 1:20 pm
What a great post! I want my two boys to know the same things ❤️
Candice
November 22, 2018 @ 9:21 am
Thank you. Absolutely, definitely works the same for boys too.
Darcey
November 24, 2018 @ 2:19 am
I can relate to this post. These are all the things I want my daughter to know. Thank you for sharing.
Natasha @MrsChettyLife
December 5, 2018 @ 7:48 am
Wonderful advise to your daughter. She should know and it’s important to tell her you love her. Great write up.
Janice
March 10, 2019 @ 12:07 pm
What great advice for everyone
Anna
March 27, 2019 @ 12:28 pm
Very thoughtful article!
Jade San Nicolas
March 27, 2019 @ 12:37 pm
I love this! I should print it 🙂
Tina
March 27, 2019 @ 12:58 pm
This is so sweet. Everytime I see a post like this, I remember that I’ll be doing this too when I have children. I think this is important but also super special coming from mom.